Insecurities & Hurdles

A topic about your insecurities and hurdles in life and proposing how you could be more confident or do better.

Let's make a game out of this. You post an insecurity and/or hurdle about yourself and the next person who wants to post has to give some (constructive) advice to the person above. Then they get to post one about themselves.

EDIT: An addendum, if you feel like it you can also quote a previous post besides the one above just in case you really feel like it's necessary to comment on it. I'm not restricting anyone in that aspect.

Normies without life issues get out reeeeeee, etc.

An example:

Seems pretty simple, right? No? Well, no worries, just try it out.

I'll start:

I find it pretty hard to control myself in a conversation. I'm kind of like Greg from Worm in that I babble and say stupid shit without thinking it through, and very often those comments are out of line and make me look bad.

 

Stupid-stupid, use profanity in a professional environment stupid, superstitious stupid, political stupid, or socially-awkward stupid?

 

I've used profanity and probably the social awkwardness as well at times yeah.

 

Care less what other people think. That or if you say something that sounds weird play it off as a joke.

 

I don’t think this addresses the heart of the issue though. I think some introspection is in order. For instance, you should ask yourself “Where is this coming from?” and “Why do I think/believe this?”

Also, I’ve never really read Worm but if this “social awkwardness and profanity” manifests as outbursts at specific people
than I think communication would be key. Just be upfront about any disagreement before it can morp from awkward one liners to a full on fight.

 

I'm not normal, but having been depressed for over 20 years, I don't imagine there's anything anybody here could tell me that I haven't already heard.

Sounds like what you need is to think more and react less. To that end, look up "mindfulness". Practicing mindfulness can develop the skill of detaching from one's stream of consciousness and observing it calmly, without getting overcome by the urge to act on or react to any particular thought or feeling.

 

I am an Aspie that has a father that was part of the National Guard, a mom that was self-employed then school aide then teacher, and an annoying brother who -during his teen years- couldn't decide on what part of the political spectrum he was on... on top of having a creepy psychologist (who once entered our house without my parents at home, my brother and I brought out the baseball bats when that happened), a school district that was at best indifferent towards someone like me, and an intense dislike for politics in general.

My insecurities and hurdles are legion...

 

I... have a particularly nasty quirk that I have kept private for over a decade: Whenever I get stressed, I become upset, unhinged, and/or angry. The worse the stress, the worse I get upset, unhinged, and/or angry... then there is the times I get a 'stress induced breakdown', where it can look like I'm suicidal to a trained child psychiatrist even though he knew that it wasn't in my nature. I've spent a few weeks/months in a mental hospital after my parents messy divorce because of one such breakdown.

I also don't do angry well, as my little brother and my dad can attest as they've seen me when I'm genuinely angry (and they'll tell you, it's fucking scary).