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Rule 9 - On the topic of words

Discussion in 'Announcements and Rules' started by tehelgee, Dec 17, 2020.

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  1. tehelgee

    tehelgee The stern gaze of justice. Administrator

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    Is a word good or bad? Is it inherently political or not? We get plenty of reports arguing that they are.

    We say context matters. If the word is meant to demean a real life person or group of people, it's usage is against the rules. If it is not, it is permitted. For example, calling Astolfo a trap is not against the rules. Calling a real life person a trap is against the rules, Rule 1 specifically.

    Nothing about our decisions have changed with this rule, it is not an change in direction. Rule 9's purpose is to codify our policy as we've been applying it.
     
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  2. Guardian Box

    Guardian Box Theocratic Capitalist

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    I'm assuming this doesn't apply if the person in question calls themselves a trap in the first place.
     
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  3. Megaolix

    Megaolix Moderator

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    Like stated, context matter. If they call themselves that, why would we have an issue with it?
     
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  4. Guardian Box

    Guardian Box Theocratic Capitalist

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    Just wanted to have this preemptively and officially qualified. After all, there are plenty of people, from cosplayers to porn actors, who call themselves traps with fondness or even pride.
     
  5. Megaolix

    Megaolix Moderator

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    Perhaps, but we don't much cosplayers and 0 porn actors on QQ last I checked.
     
  6. TriedgeThePK

    TriedgeThePK My arm is tired.

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    That you know of... ;)
     
  7. Guardian Box

    Guardian Box Theocratic Capitalist

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    We do sometimes talk about them though, and I'll have you know I look gorgeous with cat ears on, thank you very much.
     
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    xyzinc Experienced.

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    To celebrate the clarification I'm going to crank it hard to cute traps in slutty clothes
     
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  9. Otokonoko Culture

    Otokonoko Culture {Unverified Trap} {Verified Cake}

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    I say hello to you every day on irc. :(
     
  10. Guardian Box

    Guardian Box Theocratic Capitalist

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    name checks out
     
  11. Radiant Knight

    Radiant Knight Phoenix Fire

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    This is definitely relevant to my interests, and I appreciate the application of context to determine word usage issues, unlike certain other forums and their blanket bans. Ofc I say that as someone who hangs out on a porn disco dedicated to people who call themselves that.
     
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    So now common sense does not apply as long as some sjw attack helicopter feels offended about any of 170000 words? "It's not what you said, it's how you said it!11"
    Long awaited change, I'd say. Also please stay away from bigoted language like "real life person", excluding a lot of us from conversation - not all of us identify as a real life person, you know. Educate yourself about updated Rule 9 and fix it immediately, or you'll be reported.
     
  13. Doomsought

    Doomsought Experienced.

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    Don't give that type of person an inch. They are just oppression Chunibyos. They don't care about context or even reality, they just want to make themselves feel like a heroic underdog by censoring people for imaginary oppression. Just tell them to stop kink shaming otakus every time they make a report, and eventually they will take their sock puppets and leave.
     
  14. Facepalmist

    Facepalmist Well, that happened...

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    There's a certain adage about playing stupid games that applies here...

    I see what you're trying here.

    Pursuant to this, I'd suggest a rider in the rule somewhere, advising that those self-identifying as traps [or X other term] - and more specifically, those who wish to grant general permission for other users to call them traps [or X other term] - should make this clear somewhere in their personals. Say, tagline ("Verified Trap"), signature, pronouns (once XF2 happens) - basically, something to save the staff's time in checking that the user allows it.
     
  15. RichardWhereat

    RichardWhereat Aia airëa Fëanáro.

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    Well, I'm not a porn star, but I have acted in one. So you have at least 1.
     
  16. dalmedya

    dalmedya (unspecified)

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    I don't see this ever affecting me personally, but I still strongly disagree with it.
     
  17. ANGRY PUFFBALL

    ANGRY PUFFBALL I trust you know where the happy button is?

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    Mabye don't start going down the same road as SV and Resetera? We already have Rule 1 for if someone's being a dick to someone specifically.
     
  18. Otokonoko Culture

    Otokonoko Culture {Unverified Trap} {Verified Cake}

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    In a general instance, there have been numerous occasions where someone comes in and starts going "TRAP IS A SLUR" and trying to force things. The staff have, pretty consistently, been saying "We don't care if you think it's a slur. It's just a word and using it isn't in and of itself against the rules." leading to much REE.

    This is codifying that statement.

    If I were to call someone a slutty nigger faggot or something, that'd be rule 1. But just saying slutty nigger faggot isn't in and of itself an offense of any sort, and rule 9 is codifying that "no, that's not an offense"


    Unless I've completely misread things, in which case i will be upset.
     
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    Firedon Experienced.

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    Which is why the op states that it'd be specifically against Rule 1? This doesn't change any rules, it just makes it clearer.
     
  20. Psyckosama

    Psyckosama Connoisseur.

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    I'd be careful. Rules tend to have a tendency to snowball well beyond their original intent.

    You might want to institute a "reasonable person" standard.
     
  21. tehelgee

    tehelgee The stern gaze of justice. Administrator

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    No, you've pretty well got it down. But we wouldn't shield you from people disliking you for saying it, either, if you were the type to spray it all over everything.

    We have, us. Rule 9 is also, essentially, telling posters to not preach at us about what the bad words are, we'll make that decision ourselves.
     
  22. Psyckosama

    Psyckosama Connoisseur.

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    I'd strongly suggest attaching that very statement to the rule as clarification because rules tend to snowball over time.

    I apologize for the Paranoia but I've seen growing scope on rules beyond the originally intended use ruin forums before.
     
  23. rance47

    rance47 I trust you know where the happy button is?

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    Wait, maybe its just me being a boomer, but how does a "trap" counts as a swear word in the first place?!
    The word originates from the fact that you found another person so atractive and sexy, that you decided to hit on her/him, only to discover that he/she is not a gender that you assumed in the first place. Hence, "you got caught being gay" and "lols". If anything, trap is suppose to be a compliment to the people who actually crossdress that convincingly and are good looking enough to pull it off.
     
  24. Guardian Box

    Guardian Box Theocratic Capitalist

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    I don't understand why crazy neurotic busybodies do the things they do either.
     
  25. Psyckosama

    Psyckosama Connoisseur.

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    It's pure virtue signaling. I'd get into details but that would basically be inviting a Rule 8 violation.
     
  26. Megaolix

    Megaolix Moderator

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    It's already there however?
     
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    It comes down to how the activist types view sexuality philosophically.

    To the culture of QQ, sexuality is a source of entertainment. To the activist, your sexuality is the definition of whom you are and nothing else is as important. When they say dismissing their fetish is erasing them as a person, they actually believe it.

    When your fetish stops being a kink and starts being a lifestyle, then you probably have a psychological problem and need help getting your priorities in order.
     
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  28. MissileTeatime

    MissileTeatime By the power of Vaporware!

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    • Rule 8 warning. You said yourself you were taking the plunge, so here it is. Now stop it.
    Hell, I'll fall on that sword.

    If your reaction to "you look hot, but you're not the gender/don't have the genitals I thought" is "lols" then great!

    In meatspace, not everyone reacts that well. The people who would use "trap" as a derogatory are also often the kind of people who would seriously injure or kill gay or trans people just for being gay/trans. These are also the type of people who would claim that traps "dress like that specifically to trap Good People Like Me into having sex with them". A form of the "trans panic" defense of murder, basically.

    Some people (many trans people?) believe that any use of "trap" applied to people normalizes that derogatory usage, and that therefore "trap" should never be applied to people in a way that even resembles that sense. I can kinda see their argument, but I can also see that any attempt to apply that argument to QQ is seven different shades of lost cause even before Rule 9 got written down. (QQ is not meatspace law enforcement, so this is small comfort to anyone who lives somewhere that law enforcement would buy that, but QQ would laugh at any attempt to use the "trying to trap me" argument.)

    (I would describe that as a slur, not a swear, though. Important distinction if you're arguing about them.)
     
  29. FeepingCreature

    FeepingCreature Not too sore, are you?

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    Okay, but that argues in favor of the acceptable uses of the term "trap" as proposed here? Since it's certainly a valid sexuality.

    I think it's just a matter of cultural insularity. Trap aesthetic as an exploration of gender stereotypes tends to be common in anime and anime fandom, and certain activists simply don't have much contact with this cultural area. It's plausible that they genuinely have only encountered the term "trap" in a slurry way before. Of course, the kind and consistent reaction would be to listen to people telling you that it's not actually a slur in the way it was used, which is what the mods have done in this thread, but I think everyone knows that activists don't always live up to the standards they espouse.

    edit: Frankly, trap aesthetic has done enormous amounts for popularizing trans acceptance and gay/bi acceptance in chan culture. (Raise your hand if you've seen this exchange: "Dude, she has a dick." "That makes it EVEN BETTER.")
     
  30. Doomsought

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    I don't think activists are capable of understanding how humor and banter can be used as a normalizing agent. They have such a stick up their ass about their issues that whatever that are advocating for MUST BE SERIOUS BUSINESS AND ALWAYS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN THE WORLD and so no fun is allowed. That is why activists often chase the people they claim to be advocating for out of their own communities.
     
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