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Seeking Help

Discussion in 'General' started by vighzs, Dec 16, 2019.

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  1. vighzs

    vighzs Not too sore, are you?

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  2. Dakkaface

    Dakkaface Magical Defender of Justice

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    So - we ain't your therapist. Online forums are terrible at being your therapist in general, and we can't help you much.

    That said - if you're having trouble with focus and schoolwork as well as depression, have you gotten checked out for ADHD? They're often co-morbid, with depression stemming from feeling like a fuckup because ADHD means you can't do the thing because of executive function problems. Read the wikipedia article on it and look at that symptom list. Think about whether a chunk of that applies to you. If so, go back to your doctor and ask to get evaluated.
     
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    Biigoh Primordial Tanuki Moderator

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    As Dakkaface noted, we're not professional therapists...

    But I think what might help is setting a schedule and sticking to it, even if you don't do much... like get into a routine... which might help.
     
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    mizzet Connoisseur.

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    It's great that you sought professional help, if you find someone/thing suited for your situation that's probably the best thing for this.

    That aside, you can try talking to your university/professors. I can only speak for how it is for my own university, but at least here they are very understanding of those kinds of circumstances. And offer resourced to help.
     
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    LurkingInTheDeceit “Brave” explorer treading “New” land

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    Also not a therapist, so take anything I say with a bucket of salt.

    Apart from the great advice of having a routine (I was depressed for two years, had ribs showing too, before I managed to regularly get out the house and started improving), I guess you just have to change how you are looking at things. It’d be great to have good grades and if you manage to do it good on ya, but it’s not worth your life. If you have to choose between dying because you’re stuck in a rut and just taking a clean break, choose to live.

    It sucks that your friend now has complications, and I hope they get better. I guess my advice there is just to be with them for what may/may not be a limited time left? Make memories while you can, and live on to carry that forward. I don’t know what your living situation is like, nor do I have any great advice on the parental issue. I’ve had a single parent for 13 years now. But without knowing the details my best advice is to just talk to them about how stressed out they are making you, maybe they’ll change/tone it down. At least you’ll have got your say in.

    Maybe also set aside some time to vent to someone about this regularly (whether that’s a friend, therapist, family or internet strangers(though that might be a mixed bag)). Feel free to disregard everything I’ve said, no pressure. Just hope you keep on keeping on.
     
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    daimahou Gentleman Tentacle(s)

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    Aside from what others have said maybe try some kind of breathwork? (Wim Hof Method maybe? Dunno how much that would deal with depression. It should at least lessen the inevitable anxiety.)
     
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