Marital rape and forced marriages are immoral. Just because it was done in the past doesn't mean it wasn't fucked up. I mean, children today are still married to much older individuals, and some cultures consider that okay, yet that doesn't change the fact that it's fucked up.
Women being forced into relationships they don't want to be in is immoral. If you disagree then I think we see the world so differently we can't come to agreement. And that's the core of Hephaestus and Aphrodite's entire sham of a marriage.
Are you saying that it's okay to force a woman into a relationship and punish her if she wants to leave or doesn't give the man she was forced to be with love and her body? Yes or no?
Because it seems like you're essentially saying that Aphrodite should be punished because she did exactly that.
And castrating Ares for sleeping with a woman only with Hephaestus because she was forced into it under pain of smiting makes Hephaestus a monster
Ok, last try at this than I am done.
You obviously did not read the link I put up so let me break down how Aphrodite got married.
Hephaestus was angry with his mother so he sent a cursed throne to Olympus. Hara sat in the throne and was stuck. Zeus, and I quote
"Zeus sought the assistance of the gods in the freeing his Queen and offered the goddess Aphrodite in marriage to the god who could bring Hephaistos to Olympos.
Aphrodite agreed to the arrangment in the belief that her beloved Ares would prevail." Emphasis mine.
So no she was not forced into this marriage she agreed to the terms of the arrangement herself. Ares failed and Hephaestus came to win Aphrodite himself.
"Dionysos next approached the god, and suggested that he might claim Aphrodite for himself if he were to release his mother willingly. Hephaistos was pleased with the plan and ascended to Heaven with Dionysos, released his mother and wed the reluctant Love-Goddess."
Now it does say she is reluctant, in modern age she could be allowed to break a promise and go back on her word, but in those days a man's honor was more important than what a daughter wanted
Other translations, other poets change how willing she was, but we are talking about a fictional story that got turned into a fictional superhero book so we are so far from stable ground its not worth fighting over.
Can we agree that at the time in Greece it was seen as a legitimate wedding and move on?
Now as to your next point that she was forced to love Hephaestus, she was the one who instigated the congress with her husband.
"Venus [Aphrodite] . . . spoke to her husband, Volcanos [Hephaistos], as they lay in their golden bed-chamber, breathing into the words all her divine allurement [persuading him to forge armour for her son Aeneas in Latium] . . .
Since Volcanos [Hephaistos] complied not at once, the goddess softly embraced him in snowdrift arms, caressing him here and there. Of a sudden he caught the familiar spark and felt the old warmth darting into his marrow, coursing right though his body, melting him; just as it often happens a thunderclap starts a flaming rent which ladders the dark cloud, a quivering streak of fire.
Pleased with her wiles and aware of her beauty, Venus [Aphrodite] could feel them taking effect. Volcanus [Hephaistos], in love's undying thrall [conceded to her requests] . . . Thus saying, he gave his wife the love he was aching to give her; then he sank into soothing sleep, relaxed upon her breast."
She is doing it to get him to make something for her, but she is choosing to use her "wiles." He is not forcing himself on her.
You keep crying that Zeus is awesome because of all the
stories of him beating all these monsters, but you ignore the
stories that show Hephaestus was not taking advantage of anyone. He was following the laws and culture of that time. Heck the original stories seem to show that they do get divorced and Aphrodite becomes Ares consort not his wife.
